It’s mid-summer, and by now your kids are fully into the swing of camps, lessons, summer enrichment activities, and a family vacation or two. In between all this scheduled fun, you may still be hearing about boredom. Some of the aforementioned activities involve long road trips, extended plane rides, and time away from friends. So how much screen time do you allow your kids? How much direct action do you need to take to alleviate boredom?
During the final hectic weeks of school, between projects, performances, maybe even play-off games, your kids may have been willing summer to come more quickly. After looking forward to summer, having large blocks of unstructured time after being busy all year is disorienting. Name the feeling for your kids. Tell them that it’s normal to feel unmoored and agitated. Being bored doesn’t feel good but it’s a normal part of life. Learning to be comfortable with boredom is an important part of learning self-control and independence. This ties in with two core competencies of social emotional learning: self-awareness and self-management.
Let them know you understand that sometimes people’s best ideas have come out of prolonged boredom. Feeling temporarily out of sorts and antsy is part of a normal transition from the everyday busyness of the school year to the slower pace of summer.
By sitting with the agitation and boredom, you are helping your kids make constructive choices about how to use their time. This ties in the another core SEL competency: responsible decision-making. They have the opportunity to learn a new skill, catch up on summer reading, or just get used to spending time watching the world go by.
Among other things, boredom:
Sometimes the best cure for summer doldrums is helping others. Look into opportunities for park clean-up days, volunteer at a local senior center, or help pack or serve food at a local food bank. Bring a friend or two along for company. This builds two more competencies of social emotional learning: social awareness and relationship skills.
If you can’t find a scheduled volunteer opportunity, you can clean up trash around the neighborhood. All you need is a large garbage bag and some gloves.
To help spur their creativity, you can work with your kids to develop a grab bag of ideas to work on when they’re bored. This itself can be a summer transition project, and it can help keep the boredom from turning into despair.
Here are some ideas:
Enjoy these lazy summer days. Before you know it, school will be back in session and summer will be a fond memory.
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